The Best Stories You'd See Today

5 Most Controversial Topics To Discuss With Nigerian Parents

Share on linkedin
Share on twitter
Share on facebook
Share on whatsapp
Most Controversial Topics To Discuss With Nigerian Parents

Now we can all agree that Nigerian parents are dramatic and we all grew up in the same homes, even if we were raised in separate apartments. 

While having conversations with them might be fun because of their unique sense of humor, navigating sensitive conversations with them will never be a walk in the park. It always comes loaded with a lot of drama; exaggerated reactions, witty comebacks and the most savage responses, and if not properly managed, it might not end well, if you know what I mean. 

We’ll be exploring a few of those controversial topics that will never not be hard to discuss with Nigerian parents. Grab your popcorn and enjoy!

Career choices 

picture showing a lady trying to make a decision as one controversial topic to discuss with Nigerian parents

Imagine going to your mum or dad who have no military experience and telling them you want to become a soldier. Just get ready for premium bashing with punchlines like, “After all I’ve done for you,” or “do you want to disgrace me?”

Parents in Nigeria are very particular about their children’s career choice; they believe there’s only one path to greatness and it begins with obtaining a bachelor’s degree, usually followed by  a white-collar job with some promise of a wonderful career ahead of you. 

Meanwhile, all you probably wish you could be is a rapper and travel the whole world on music tours. If you’ve made up your mind that this is the path you want to pursue and you’re ready for the drama that will come with it, then, you need to have a conversation with your parents. 

I remember Davido’s story and how his father arrested him because he wanted to do music…lol

Disclaimer: The first time you want to bring up the subject, try not to sit too close to them because heads might roll…

The truth is they want the best for you but they might have limited knowledge on the benefits of giving you the liberty to pursue your dreams and abilities. 

Relationship and Marriage

picture showing a married couple as a controversial topic to discuss with Nigerian parents

The choice of whom to date or marry will forever be a sensitive subject to discuss with Nigerian parents. You can tell by the way they usually begin with prayers that almost sound like curses.  I’m not sure I know why but this conversation can move from zero to hundred in a matter of seconds. 

According to the general handbook our parents operate from, the statutory time for this particular conversation is the wee hours of the morning, when the sleep is just making sense or after a great family hangout or after you’ve made the mistake of attending a wedding owambe with them and you visibly had fun (oops, now you’re in trouble!). 

Once they begin this conversation, it might help if you keep your opinions to yourself, especially if they’re contradictory, or else, the mothers would say you have killed them when you say you aren’t ready to get married at a certain age, especially when they think you have enough resources to get married. 

This is one conversation you have to handle with all the maturity you can muster, else you might just end up being disinherited or having to involve the entire extended family because Nigerian parents can be so dramatic. 

Parenting styles 

picture showing family as a controversial topic to discuss with Nigerian parents

Nigerian parents will never take the backseat when it comes to conversations around parenting your own children. 

Telling your parents (or parents-in-law) that the doctor says your infant isn’t supposed to take any external fluid (like water and traditional herbs) except breast milk for a whole six months because of a “concept” called exclusive breastfeeding, or that the child should be strapped instead of sitting pretty on your back might just be your way of starting a cold war. 

They would say you’ve insulted them and insinuated that they don’t know how to care for infants, as if they didn’t raise you the same way but now you think you know better because a doctor (that’s not even had a baby) said so. 

To think we had a lot of tough love and “discipline” from our parents for the slightest mistakes we made while growing up. These same parents now become softies and help their grandchildren get away with breaking every parenting rule you put in place, entertaining all their whims and caprices. 

Sex 

picture showing explicit signs of sex as a controversial topic to discuss with Nigerian parents

Uhm hmm…I had to clear my throat before touching the elephant in the room. When it comes to awkward conversations you might not enjoy having with Nigerian parents, this one tops the charts. How do you even begin a conversation about sex with your Nigerian parents, like how?

I heard this kind of conversation mostly begins with an innocent question about what you heard, read or saw somewhere. You will immediately know you’ve crossed a line by the reaction of your Nigerian parents. 

It is always epic; from shock that you are aware of such things, to accusations to confirm that you don’t indulge in such, and finally the advice but all of these tactics might have thrown you off balance, making you feel like a bad person for seeking clarity. 

It’s called reverse psychology and every one of them knows how to play the game. Truth is they’re mostly shocked and don’t know how to navigate the conversation but instead of letting their vulnerability show (because they’re Nigerian parents and Nigerian parents do not show weakness), they act all tough and resort to reverse psychology.   

Disclaimer – If you can’t avoid this conversation altogether, just be mindful of what you say because whatever you say might be used against you in the subsequent cases you’ll have with them.

Tattoos and Body Piercings 

picture showing a woman with tattoos on her body

“I said it, you’ve finally joined bad gang!” “Is this how you want to pay me back?… Not in this house/under my roof!” 

These are some of the things you’ll hear as your Nigerian parents’ first line of response, if you told them you wanted to get a tat or body piercing. My mum would outrightly switch to prayers and start rebuking the evil spirit that has possessed her child because in the opinion of the average Nigerian parent, only evil people pierce their bodies and have tattoos. 

However, some people have braved the odds by going ahead to get the piercing/tattoo and allowing their parents to see it so they can have a chat about it. Well, for this kind of conversation, I have no experience because I haven’t had the spunk to try such …..lol 

If you’re currently in this situation, I wish you all the best!

Have you had any experience discussing some of these topics with your parents? How did they react? Join the Fusion community and tell us all about it. Let’s keep the conversation going!

Related Posts

5,868 Responses

  1. There are actually plenty of particulars like that to take into consideration. That may be a great level to convey up. I offer the ideas above as general inspiration however clearly there are questions like the one you deliver up where the most important thing will be working in honest good faith. I don?t know if greatest practices have emerged round issues like that, but I’m certain that your job is clearly recognized as a good game. Both girls and boys really feel the influence of only a moment?s pleasure, for the rest of their lives.

  2. Thanks for expressing your ideas right here. The other issue is that whenever a problem comes up with a laptop or computer motherboard, persons should not go ahead and take risk involving repairing that themselves because if it is not done properly it can lead to permanent damage to all the laptop. It will always be safe just to approach any dealer of a laptop for that repair of its motherboard. They have got technicians who have an knowledge in dealing with mobile computer motherboard issues and can get the right analysis and conduct repairs.

  3. I have mastered some new things from your website about pcs. Another thing I’ve always thought is that computers have become a product that each family must have for many reasons. They supply you with convenient ways to organize the home, pay bills, shop, study, tune in to music and even watch television shows. An innovative strategy to complete these tasks has been a notebook. These computer systems are mobile ones, small, powerful and portable.

  4. A person essentially help to make seriously posts I would state. This is the first time I frequented your web page and thus far? I amazed with the research you made to make this particular publish amazing. Fantastic job!

  5. I’ve noticed that credit score improvement activity must be conducted with tactics. If not, you will probably find yourself damaging your rank. In order to reach your goals in fixing your credit score you have to verify that from this instant you pay your complete monthly expenses promptly before their slated date. It really is significant on the grounds that by not accomplishing so, all other moves that you will decide to try to improve your credit positioning will not be powerful. Thanks for discussing your suggestions.

  6. I?ve been exploring for a bit for any high quality articles or weblog posts on this sort of space . Exploring in Yahoo I finally stumbled upon this site. Reading this information So i?m glad to express that I’ve a very excellent uncanny feeling I discovered exactly what I needed. I most indubitably will make sure to do not overlook this website and provides it a glance regularly.

  7. My goal is to provide our readers with a smooth and fair gaming experience.
    Our experts at Stakers advise players to set limits on their spending and session time.

    These new platforms often feature the latest games with cutting-edge features.
    The main reason is the need for fresh gaming experiences and modern technology.

    However, even if you don’t, you’ll still have the responsibility to report your gambling income.
    When your payouts exceed a certain amount (typically $600), you may receive a W-2G form from the casino.
    Its welcome bonus is designed to cushion your initial losses, making it
    especially appealing if you’re starting with a modest budget.
    It has thousands of slots, including many progressives.

    BetMGM is probably the most suitable casino for you.

    References:
    https://blackcoin.co/top-online-casinos-in-australia-your-2025-guide/

  8. Hey very nice blog!! Man .. Beautiful .. Amazing .. I will bookmark your website and take the feeds also?I’m happy to find so many useful info here in the post, we need work out more techniques in this regard, thanks for sharing. . . . . .

  9. You’ll know how to unlock bonuses and how different symbols work.
    Playing pokies regularly by phone helps you to hone your mobile gaming skills.
    With an Android or iOS smartphone, you can play these pokies anywhere, in your comfort.
    So, we’ve lined up some of the best casino online slots in Australia.
    The good and the bad sides of online gambling in Australia.
    Notably, all online gambling providers are subject to the
    Interactive Gambling Act.
    Online pokies are the backbone of online casinos
    in Australia. Whenever you open a real money Australian online
    casino, you’re always hit with the welcome bonus
    in the face. We are a whole team behind our reviews of AU online casinos,
    but we’re testing hundreds of sites.
    In addition, the graphics and musical effects in NetEnt games are
    superb. Delivering adaptable digital casino solutions is something NetEnt takes great pride in. With its innovative
    platform and entertaining games, the company has been a genuine market
    innovator. Clearly, Microgaming is a developer of some of the best payout pokies in Australia.
    It’s worth mentioning that BGaming was among the first to
    introduce provably fair games in Australia.

    References:
    https://blackcoin.co/crypto-casinos-top-sites-in-2025/

  10. My developer is trying to persuade me to move to .net from PHP. I have always disliked the idea because of the expenses. But he’s tryiong none the less. I’ve been using Movable-type on numerous websites for about a year and am worried about switching to another platform. I have heard excellent things about blogengine.net. Is there a way I can transfer all my wordpress content into it? Any kind of help would be really appreciated!

  11. Thanks for expressing your ideas. The first thing is that learners have a choice between national student loan plus a private student loan where it really is easier to choose student loan debt consolidation than in the federal education loan.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *