How to Keep the Spark Alive in Long-Term Relationships in Nigeria (Because, Apparently, Some of You Aren’t Suffering Enough)

Ah, love! While most of us are struggling to buy bread without calculating the cost of air, there are still people out here looking for ways to “keep the spark alive” in long-term relationships.

Imagine, in this T-pain economy, with the price of everything soaring, some people are more worried about romantic dates than they are about their gas cylinders finishing mid-cooking!

But if you insist on adding romance to your suffering, here’s a foolproof guide to keeping things hot (or at least lukewarm) in long-term relationships.

1. Go on Romantic Dates (But on a Budget, My Friend)

If you’re lucky enough to still afford “going out” in this economy, you deserve applause. But to keep it sustainable, it’s time to get creative. Forget fancy dinners in VI or the thrill of Lekki restaurants – it’s time to embrace the low-budget options. Try a walk down your street (assuming it’s safe), visit a local buka, or, for the truly adventurous, window shop at Shoprite. Nothing says “we’re in this together” like looking at items you have no intention of buying.

If you’re really determined, you can hit up that “Point and Kill” fish joint in your area. Nothing says romance like both of you pointing to the smallest fish and pretending it’s a feast.

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2. Turn Your Home Into a Five-Star Experience

Who needs fancy hotel getaways when you have… NEPA? Create ambiance at home by lighting a candle whenever they “take light.” Not only is it affordable, but it’s also sustainable (until your candle finishes). Plus, you get the thrill of uncertainty: will the light come back while you’re in the middle of dinner? Will you find the charger before your phone dies? It’s the suspense that keeps things fresh in long-term relationships.

For those days when you want something extra, take it up a notch by playing the sounds of rain on your phone while sitting in a well-arranged part of your living room. You’ll have a premium “staycation” experience without spending a kobo!

3. Recreate Honeymoon Vibes (On the Mainland)

So you want to relive that magical honeymoon period but don’t want to break the bank? No problem. Nothing says romance like a stay on the Mainland, where you’ll enjoy a “mini vacation” filled with Lagos traffic and endless street hawkers. Imagine holding hands while dodging potholes or sharing a snack from the nearest roadside vendor. It’s cheap, thrilling, and comes with free entertainment.

If you’re on the Island and feeling adventurous, try taking a danfo together. Squeeze beside each other on a bus, and, who knows, the conductor might even shout at you both for added spice!

4. Surprise Each Other With… Affordable Gifts

People keep talking about “surprising your partner,” but listen, in this economy, it’s the thought that counts – not the amount. If you’re feeling generous, go to a mall, buy them their favorite biscuit, and even add a bottle water to wash it down. Present it with pride; after all, true love sees beyond material things.

For those willing to go the extra mile, why not surprise your partner with data? Because, as we know, in Nigeria, a gigabyte of data is the real symbol of commitment. What’s “I love you” compared to “I just recharged your data”?

5. Keep Up With Good Communication (In Short, Argue a Little)

Every Nigerian knows that communication is key. But sometimes, nothing says “I still care” like a little argument here and there. Has your partner been forgetting to take the trash out? Argue! Did they eat the last piece of meat? Argue again. After all, silence is what kills relationships, and a healthy argument reminds them that they’re still important enough to annoy you.

Besides, a little “fight and make-up” can rekindle the spark in unexpected ways. Just remember, once the argument is over, head to the nearest buka and make-up over a shared plate of jollof rice. That’s the Nigerian way.

6. Create “Anniversary Moments” Over Small Victories

In this economy, we should be celebrating the small things. Did you both survive a month without your generator needing repairs? Anniversary-worthy. Managed to cook stew without crying over tomato prices? That’s romance.

Create little traditions for yourselves. For instance, celebrate “NEPA gave us light all night” with a special breakfast. Buy extra akara to mark the occasion and relive that first honeymoon glow with each shared bean cake.

7. Show Love Through Acts of Service (Because Who Can Afford Fancy Gifts?)

In these hard times, fancy gifts may not always be an option, but acts of service? Free and full of meaning! Surprise your partner by washing their clothes on a Saturday, or make them a cup of tea in the morning. Nothing says romance like some breakfast in bed.

8. Throw in Some Random “I Still Love You” Messages (To Distract From the Hustle)

Sometimes, all it takes to keep the spark alive is a simple message reminding them of how much they mean to you. Try sending something short, sweet, and straight to the point, like: “I love you more than jollof rice” or “Even if tomato prices go up, my love for you won’t reduce.” You can go the extra mile by making it a handwritten note. When last did your partner get a love letter?

And if your partner has a sense of humor, send them an “alert” by transferring ₦1000 with a note that says “Just to remind you, I’ll always be here… within my budget.”

In a country where we’re all budgeting our lives down to the last kobo, romance might seem like a luxury – but hey, why not add a little extra suffering to keep the love alive? The Nigerian economy might test our wallets, but a little creativity and humor can go a long way. So go on, apply these tips, and enjoy your long-term relationships, even if it’s on a budget!

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