My Sexual Partner is Too Big for Me – What Can I Do?

Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and while love is in the air, so is the slight panic of having a partner that is… well, generously endowed.

Whether you’re gearing up for a romantic getaway or a cozy night in, the last thing you want is to turn this special occasion into an ouch moment. If you’re wondering what to do if your partner is too big, don’t worry – size doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker.

But before we proceed, this is where I remind you that it is not by force o. Jesus did not die for you to be stuffed like Thanksgiving turkey. Do not feel compelled to consent because you have collected Valentine gifts. If you’re not ready for genital meet and greet, please go to your father’s house and sleep.

Having said that, if you’re ready and down for business, you can make it happen. With the right approach, you can turn this potential “too much to handle” situation into a memorable experience (for all the right reasons).

Here are some useful tips to help you figure out how to handle a well-endowed partner and enjoy your Valentine’s Day without stress.

1. Foreplay is Your Best Friend

See ehn, it’s not a sprint – it’s a marathon. Think of foreplay as your warm-up session before the big game. The more time you spend getting in the mood, the better prepared your body will be for the grand entrance.

What to do:

Take your time with massages, kisses, and everything that gets you relaxed.
Communication is key – let your partner know what feels good.

Treat foreplay like jollof rice – slow and steady wins the race.

2. Lube is Non-Negotiable

Listen, sis, no matter how ready you think you are, lube is the ultimate cheat code. A little extra help can make things way smoother and way less intimidating when dealing with a ‘huuuge’ partner in bed.

What to do:

Opt for a good water-based lubricant (silicone-based might stain those Valentine’s sheets).
Don’t be shy about reapplying. Using lube effectively can make all the difference.

3. Pace Yourself

Nobody’s handing out trophies for speed here. It’s perfectly fine to take things one step at a time and go at a pace that feels comfortable for you.

What to do:

Start slow and ease into things gradually.
Remember to breathe. Taking deep, calming breaths signals to your brain that it’s okay to relax and your body naturally follows suit. (Trust me, I know. 😉)
If it hurts, stop – pain isn’t part of the Valentine’s Day package.

Think of it as dancing; it’s all about rhythm, not speed.

4. Experiment with Positions

Some positions make things easier, while others… well, let’s just say they require Olympic-level flexibility. Finding the best sex positions for big-sized partners can make all the difference.

What to do:

Try positions that give you more control, like being on top.
Avoid positions that create too much depth too quickly.

Stick to the classics before attempting acrobatics.

5. Communication is Sexy

Don’t suffer in silence! The best relationships (even sexual ones) thrive on communication, so let your partner know how you’re feeling. It’s a team effort, after all.

What to do:

Use words, signals, or even a playful tap if things get intense.
Don’t be afraid to ask for breaks or adjustments.

A little dirty talk can make even awkward moments fun.

Having a partner who’s blessed doesn’t have to be a challenge – with a little preparation, patience, and laughter, you can make it work. Remember, Valentine’s Day is about connection, not just the physical stuff. So focus on enjoying each other, and the rest will fall into place (literally).

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Nesiama Fasola

Nesiama (Ness) Fasola is a community manager, tech enthusiast, writer and full time hopeless romantic. She loves to scribble words in a bid to make sense of the jumble of thoughts, ideas and emotions that constantly plague her mind. At her leisure, you can either find her nose-deep in a book, brewing coffee or poking around in her garden.