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5 Ways To Understand Your Partner’s Love Languages

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Love this, love that…you like love too much, it’s how your face brightens whenever the topic comes up. LOL. But truthfully, love is a beautiful thing. We all want to bask in the sweet, giddy euphoria of being loved.

We fantasize often about how we want to be loved, that we now have names for our fantasies: Love Languages.

Love is more than just a feeling, it’s expressive. Love languages are the different ways in which people express and receive love. Understanding your love language, and that of your partners’ is a game changer in relationships.

Now, let’s decode your love languages.

1.Offering Act Of Service

“Husband material 1 million yards”, that’s why you used almost half a sachet of salt to boil rice. Well she would understand, she’ll eat it, because it was made with love (and maybe a lot of salt).

You tried abeg, let no one pressure you. It’s all love after all!

It wasn’t the best food, but the effort is what matters the most. You weren’t just cooking, it’s an act of service straight from your soul…let’s call it ‘love on a plate’.

But next time, remember to consult YouTube, your mum’s recipe book, or even glance at the back of the rice packet. Let the love taste better.

2. Understanding Words Of Affirmation

couple giving compliments as their love languages

Yes, we know you’re just a girl. You love sweet words, and love to be reminded that you’re beautiful. But he is also just a boy, he may act tough and not say it, but he also wants to feel appreciated.

“Odogwu paranran, sweet man, my prince, you look good”. Call him all the sweet names, give him pet names that will make him blush, hype him like you’re his personal MC. Those words mean more than you think, his love tank will thank you.

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3. Spending Quality Time

couple spending quality time as their love languages

You finally get to spend time alone with your woman. Yet all you’re doing is nod an answer to everything she says, while playing Call Of Duty.

She’s trying to connect, and all you’re offering is the occasional grunt, a distracted “yeah,” and some side-eye between rounds. You don’t even notice her freshly carved eyebrow.

Then you wonder why she is pissed. It is called “quality time” for a reason, it’s not just about being in the same room, it is for you to spend time together without any distraction whatsoever.

Quality time isn’t about proximity, it’s about connection. Make her feel like nothing else matters in that moment but her.

4. Engage In Physical Touch 

couple cuddling as their love languages

You hug your pillow every time, like it’s a matter of life and death. If the pillow were human, you would have sucked life out of it, all in the name of cuddling.

There’s nothing weak or shameful about needing closeness, especially after a long, stressful day. If you want a cuddle, just ask. Nobody will beat you. The worst answer you’ll get is a no, or you just might get a “me too” from your partner, and you’ll both live cuddly ever after.

Just remember, consent and comfort are crucial in expressing love through physical touch, which should never feel forced or one-sided.

5. Intentional Gifting

woman giving her partner an intentional gift

It’s Valentine’s Day, you’re breaking your piggy bank again, to buy him another set of boxers and singlets. But you? You want a flower bouquet, a pack of chocolates, and a designer cloth collection.

No, it’s not about the monetary value, but the sentiment behind the gift. We know, we know, but there’s really no sentiment behind buying boxers and singlets every year.

Honestly, it might not even be a flower bouquet or a pack of chocolates. She probably just wants boli and fried stew from Mama Bisi that sells down the street.

Constant conversations with your partner, will help you both know each other’s likes and dislikes, that way you have a better idea next time, on what gift to get and what not to get.

RELATED: Gift Ideas For Your Loved Ones This Christmas

Love is in the check-in texts, the meals cooked after a long day, and the silences shared without awkwardness. Grand gestures are beautiful, but love also lives in the small, consistent actions. Understanding and communicating in our partner’s love languages, is incredibly important for building a strong and fulfilling relationship. You can find out more about love and understanding your partner, when you join the Dating and Relationship Community on Fusion.ng!

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