Why No One Goes Out Anymore and Why We Must Start Again

It’s another Friday night, and you’re in bed, scrolling. The eight group chats you’re in—church, work, your closest friends—are all silent. No one’s free. No one’s in the mood for going out. Everyone’s probably doom-scrolling somewhere or just tired.

Sound familiar?

You’re not imagining it. Something has definitely shifted. People don’t go out anymore, not the way they used to. Not for the joy of it. Not for the fun. And definitely not for the connection.

But what’s even more unsettling? We’re beginning to forget where we ever used to go. We’re forgetting what “going out” even felt like.

The Quiet Fade of Community

We are the most connected generation in human history, yet many of us are alone. Deeply alone.

It’s easier to DM someone than to look them in the eye. Easier to react to stories than to create new ones in person. Somewhere along the way, presence started feeling optional, and now it feels foreign.

Why?

• We’re digitally exhausted. Our lives now happen through screens. From work to leisure, we’re always online and socially drained.

• We’re emotionally burnt out. After years of social disruption and economic stress, “going out” feels more like a task than a thrill.

• We’ve lost the habit of gathering. Once upon a time, hangouts, meetups, and even random pop-ins were part of our rhythm. Now, they feel distant, optional, and forgotten.

But here’s the truth: we need each other. In real life. In real time. Face to face. Heart to heart.

The Cost of Staying In

Sure, it’s cheaper to stay home. Sure, it’s easier. But something is quietly lost in the staying.

We lose the magic of serendipity, the chance encounter, the new inside joke, the laugh you didn’t know you needed.

We lose the hidden power of presence, a hug, unfiltered eye contact, someone just being there.

We lose the irreplaceable feeling of belonging, not just being “liked” but truly being seen.

Even the most introverted among us need connection. Not just conversation but community, joy, story, and humanity.

The beautiful part? That connection is still possible. Closer than you think.

Where Do We Go From Here?

We’re not just dealing with a social shift, we’re dealing with social amnesia. Many of us have forgotten how to hang out, how to make plans, or even where to go. But the good news is: we can relearn it. And it doesn’t have to be complicated.

That’s where Fusion comes in.

Fusion isn’t just another social media platform. We believe that technology should bring people together in real life, not just keep them endlessly scrolling. That’s why our Events feature is at the heart of what we do.

With Fusion Events, you can:

1. Discover events happening near you, from art shows and concerts to brunches and meetups.

2. Buy tickets easily without switching tabs or downloading anything.

3. Meet like-minded people, not just online but in person.

We’re not trying to take you away from your screen. We’re just giving you a reason to close it, even for one night.

So… What Now?

Try something radical.

Go out again.

Reclaim the joy of human connection. Not just in your DMs, but in your city.

• Find an event.

• Invite a friend.

• Or go solo and make a new one.

You don’t have to wait for society to fix itself. You are society. It starts with you, it starts with going out, one plan, one RSVP.

See Upcoming Events Here!

Nesiama Fasola

Nesiama (Ness) Fasola is a community manager, tech enthusiast, writer and full time hopeless romantic. She loves to scribble words in a bid to make sense of the jumble of thoughts, ideas and emotions that constantly plague her mind. At her leisure, you can either find her nose-deep in a book, brewing coffee or poking around in her garden.